Personally speaking. I think one should never have to justify their own enjoyment or happiness to their significant other. I had a girlfriend once who made the remark that buying movies was stupid and a waste of money when I could just download them. I told her to get lost and went out and spent about $500 on movies. Seeing where some of my friends are with their relationships and their own personal happiness, I know I've made the right choice. I'm with someone now who doesn't even bat an eye when I say "Hey Moog just brought out a new synth." or "Oh man, they are finally bringing Invasion Of The Flesh Hunters on Blu Ray!" or "I need to make room in the fridge for some film stock." She just smiles and says "Tell me about it." or "Let me help you make room." Even when we were at a music store I needed a MIDI Solutions Rack System and was like "I'll get it later, let's go for dinner." She bought it right then and there for me and said "Now we can go to dinner."
Lighten up, Lobolives. We're just having a little fun here. All that I've said on this has been entirely in jest. The fact is, I could order that ARP 2600 right now; yes, we could technically afford it, but it wouldn't be the right thing for me to do.
I've been happily married for twenty-one years, and that didn't come from doing my own thing whenever I wanted. Marriage is about devotion to another person, and that entails significant sacrifices of one's own desires and possessions. My wife left Ireland to marry me, and I gave almost my entire inheritance to pay for the house she liked. That's what it takes. When the effort is mutual, the two spouses make something very rare and beautiful.